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  · Super News! Or…well…

Hi, all our amazing followers, readers, and supporters!

The Authentically Human team is in the process of implementing some pretty dope changes, so the blog is going on hiatus for a little while. Our posts and advice section will be available, but no new content will be added until the re-launch (January 1, 2015).

Some things you can expect to see:

  • Brand new site
  • Added sections
  • New writers
  • All new content and features
  • Merch. ‘Nuff Said.
  • Community Outreach & Partnerships (including some wicked cool programs)
  • Events

We’re all super excited we’re finally getting the chance to go through everything we wanted to do, and can’t wait until the Big Reveal!

Stay tuned, and stay awesome (:

- The AHU Team.

If you need advice or have a question, we’ll still be monitoring the blog so we’ll most definitely be here to answer any thing!

Having Faith in What You Believe In

By Alesha Elbert

Family/Relationship Writer

    Picture this, you’re in a hospital room. You’re sitting at the edge of the bed, watching the love of your life slip away from this world. Tears are falling from your eyes, and the doctors have told you that any minute now your spouse will be gone. Your heart beats with every lift of your partner’s chest, and you’re wondering when it all will end. As you’re waiting, you close your eyes and whisper a little pray to yourself that no matter what happens, everything will be alright. Then, as soon as the last word slips from your mouth, your lover’s eyes open.

    Faith. If you are a spiritual person in some shape or form, you know what faith is. When you believe that you will overcome your situation, regardless of the circumstances. That’s faith! When you love someone, you put your all into the relationship. Doubt may ease into your heart, but you must not concern yourself with what has happened in your past, but of what is going to come in your future.

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   If you’re dating or married I know that you’ve had to deal with negativity. People talk down your relationship because either they’re jealous, or they’ve had an experience with your partner and they want to warn you. Now don’t get me wrong, no one is perfect. But if you have someone telling you consistently that someone is bad, it’s not about what they believe. It’s about what you believe. You have to have faith in what you love in order to be happy in this world. You can listen to the advice that others may provide you, but go back to your teachings, your knowledge of the person. Add up the facts versus opinions and see does that align up with what you believe. From that point, you can make a decision for yourself on what is right or wrong.

    We were all given beautiful minds to decipher between good and bad. But we were also given the spiritual power of faith. Hold onto what you believe and what you want from this life or relationship and I promise, it will happen! Happiness was meant for us to have, so have faith in love, and it will be in your future. 

    I know you’ve heard from our social media sites that we are going on a hiatus, but will be back January 1, 2015. Just a reminder, you can still ask me for relationship advice or any questions you may have about the blog. There will also be fundraisers coming your way as well so continue to read the blog! 

To-Do List: Relax

Michelle Norsworthy

For anyone who’s ever rushed to get things done, frantically skimming reading notes for class or a meeting, this post is for you.

It’s a good idea to have a list, or a planner, detailing all the things you need to get done. Whether it’s just in a day, or for the entire week, schedules can fill up rather quickly, and we don’t always remember to pencil ourselves in. It’s a great idea, actually, if you’re someone (like me) who forgets things easily.

However, our schedules can sometimes dictate our lives. They become a code to live by, even if we don’t realize it. If we miss an item on our lists, or it takes too long, we start stressing. Our eyes get all wide, the muscles in our necks tense up, and jets of smoke fly from our ears.

Okay, so I’m being dramatic, but the levels of stress we experience when something doesn’t go our way – or the way we schedule things out – can make us feel as though we failed somehow, or as if we aren’t being productive.

Let me be the first to say that this is 100% false. FALSE, I SAY!

Schedules were meant to be tentative, allowing for the unexpected or, let’s face it, a break. We can start the day with high ambitions, thinking we’re going to accomplish everything on our lists. While most times it’s possible to get everything done, and take a break, there are some days when it seems as if the tasks never end.

If, like me, you’re a person who can’t deal when things don’t go the way they envision, or schedule, here are some quick pro-tips to help you manage your tasks and set aside some time to watch an episode or two of your favorite show! (:

Pro-Tip #1: If things have a deadline, write it in your planner 1-2 days before it’s actually due. Chances are, you’re going to forget that it’s not actually do that day, and you’ll be less likely to procrastinate. You’ll also wind up with a lot of free time at the end.

Pro-Tip #2: If it’s an event, or a daily To-Do List, and you find that it’s going to be hella long, divide it up. What items simply have to be done? Mark those first and write the ones that aren’t as important further down the list. This can help reduce that icky feeling we get when we don’t get everything done.

Pro-Tip #3: Breathe. At the end of the day, your sanity is more important. It’s important to remember that stress, and over-exerting yourself physically and mentally, can lead to some nasty physical consequences (e.g., fatigue, irritability, headache, etc). If there’s no way to get something done, either find a quick creative solution, or understand that, sometimes, it just can’t get done.

Take care of yourselves, loves!

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Special Note: Authentically Human will be taking a hiatus so we can really dig into our new design. In the mean time, feel free to look around and all the amazing posts we have to offer. Our advice section is still up and running, however. Our big reveal will happen January 1, 2014. If you need to contact anyone in the meantime, feel free to leave us a message!

Thanks to all the wonderful followers and readers who support us, and stay tuned. We’re about to do it big. Believe me.

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The Power Of Believing In Your Dreams

By: Alia Lewis

Empowerment Writer

 

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These are my dreams. These are the things that keep me up at night and often scare me. As you can see, they’re big and before I started typing this, they seemed unachievable. When I think about these dreams, my doubts often remind me of what I don’t have; Money, connections, resources, skill, education. But have you ever realized that your doubts and fears, never remind you of what you do have? Experience, ambition, drive, passion, potential.

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We all want to accomplish great things in our lives. However, I believe the biggest obstacle to achieving those great things is our mind. We have to overcome our doubts and push past our fears of failing. We also must remember to keep a positive mindset, and despite what Drake says, stop going from 0-100 real quick. It’s a trade-off. If we focus on what we don’t have, we’re not going to be able to focus on what we do have. I’ve said this a million times and I will say it a million more until you program it into your brain.

It’s not about how good you are, but it’s about how good you want to be!

Stop comparing your weakness, your lack of skill, money, and connections to someone’s strength. Tyler Perry, Michael Jordan, Oprah, Elizabeth Gilbert, Michael Angelo, Dr. Seuss, Steven Spielberg have all been in the business for a very long time, so you comparing your inexperienced self to their overly experienced self is going to cause nothing but depression. Also, before they became who they are, overly experienced greats, they were all just like you and me, inexperienced potentials. Stop dwelling on your lack and start focusing on your abundance. You already have building blocks for success; dreams, ambition, passion, some experience, drive, and potential. Believe in yourself. You’re going to do great things.

-Peace, Alia

P.S. Although we’re going on a hiatus to fix technical difficulties, you can still message me, here at any time. I would love to hear from you.

Michelle Norsworthy

Sitting outside today, I heard a sparrow chirping in the tree right next to my head. It’s not often birds get that close to me and I’ve always been raised to be open to the signs that are sent our way. So what message does the sparrow offer us?

In the words of Avia Venefica, who’s devoted to symbolic interpretation, “[The sparrow] reminds us we don’t have to have the big stuff (cars, houses, etc) to be important, and we do not have to have the loudest voice in order to be heard.”

At a time when the world’s elite can no longer turn a deaf ear to its citizens, this little creature’s message couldn’t have come at a better time. Making our voices heard is something that, for some us, can be quite difficult. It can also be intimidating, but the message that the sparrow brings to us is that we need not be afraid.

Whether it’s in your relationships, in class, or just in everyday life, don’t be afraid to voice your opinion. To let people know that you have value, and your dreams have value.

Sparrows also reminds us that the strength of the Divine is with each of us, and that it’s time we re-evaluate how we view our self-worth. What negative ideas do we have about ourselves? We know these aren’t true, and sparrows remind us that we must use our hearts and nourish both ourselves and those around us.

Part of our mission here, at Authentically Human, is understanding the value  of each and every voice, and encourage people to speak out. If you’d like to share your story, let us know here. (:

  · Why It’s Ok NOT to Have Everything In Life Figured Out

Why It’s Ok NOT To Have Everything In Life Figured Out

By: Alia Lewis

Empowerment Writer

 

Life is full of pressure. Bottom line, point blank period.

There is always something that society or someone else will pressure you about. In high school, you must take the SAT, apply for college, join millions of organizations, maintain your grades, take care of other responsibilities, and if that’s not enough, you must also apply for scholarships. People insinuate that if you mess up on a single thing, your life will be ruined! If you don’t get a good SAT score, you won’t get into a good college, meaning you won’t receive a good job. This results in no fat pay check, but instead being on welfare while being homeless and sharing a chicken leg with BoBo under the bridge…. While it’s raining!

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Now if all of what I listed sounded ridiculous, congratulations! You’re extremely intelligent.

In life, it might seem like you must have everything together in order to live a happy, successful, abundant life, but that’s not true at all. Almost everyone I know failed to follow those steps to the T. I’m a living witness that you can still come out on top even if you mess up. Don’t let the pressures of society weigh you down and intimidate you. No one has it all together. Most of the people in this world understand that everything is not always going to go according to plan. You’re not perfect, you’re going to grow and make mistakes and change your mind hundreds of times.

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“50-70% of college students change their majors at least once, most will change majors at least 3 times before they graduate.”-  University of La Verne (it’s in California!)

The point is, you’re not going to have everything figured out in life. Therefore, make sure you don’t allow your lack of knowledge and control of the future, prevent you from pursuing what you desire today. Whether it’s going to college, choosing a major, finding a career, whatever. Just because you don’t have all the answers now doesn’t mean you won’t be able to find them along the way. It takes time. You don’t have to have everything figured out. Do what you love in this moment and let everything else fall into place.

Have a fantastic weekend.

-Peace, Alia

P.S. If you have enjoyed this post, let me know here. Also if you have any comments or questions, message me. I would love to hear from you!

Good Cockblocking: Bringing Your Bestie on a Date

By Alesha Elbert

Family/Relationship Writer

Here’s a question for you all. So you just met this person, you’re really into them and have only known them for about a week. The weekend comes, and of course, you’re dying to see this person again. The person asks you, “Hey, would you like to come over and chill?” You respond by saying, “Sure.” Now you have options. A, you take your best friend with you, or B you go alone. What do you do?

    With the way the world works, there is a new sense of paranoia in everyone’s hearts. We have no idea what anyone’s intentions are anymore. You can’t judge by the way they talk, dress, or anything. People have hidden agendas. So with this in mind, your best bet is to take a friend with you. Why? Because you DON’T KNOW THEM. Some of you may be thinking, “I’m grown, I can protect myself!” Or, “I just met the person, they’re not going to hurt me.” Honestly, I thought the same way, UNTIL I asked around. Here were a few of my questions:

Q. Why would you bring a friend with you when all they want to do is chill?

A. Yes, they may want to just chill, but what if one thing leads to another and you’re not ready for that? You have a friend there to prevent it. Kind of like, “good cockblocking”.

Q. What if the person becomes interested in your friend?

A. First, be careful about which friend you bring along with you. If it’s a single friend that you really wouldn’t trust with your life, that’s not a good choice. But if it is a friend that you would die for and is also taken, definitely bring them. Their intentions will be good.  

And if he/she becomes interested in your friend, then they weren’t set on taking things serious with you in the first place. It’s better to find out now than along the way.

Q. What if your friend begins to feel like a third wheel? Appearing to even be uncomfortable?

A. You could always ask the individual if they have another friend to keep your friend company, or do group chilling things. Watch Netflix; just find something that you all have in common to do. You’ll be learning about what he/she like, plus including your friend in the fun.

    In my opinion, I feel it is necessary to bring a friend with you if you’re chilling with someone for the first time. If it was a date or outing with several people around, then it may not be necessary to bring a friend along. Also, remember to always drive yourself because if things go wrong, you have a way out. If you don’t feel comfortable going to their place, ask can they come over to yours. This way you have control over your situation. Remember, you want to be comfortable because your life is what matters. If you love yourself, you do things that will protect yourself.

I want to hear from you guys on this situation! I know you have some opinions or may be approaching this predicament. Hit us up in the inbox and I’ll make sure to get back with you.

                                                                                       -Blessings,

                                                                                                 Layy

  · Embracing Your Authentic Self

Embracing Your Authentic Self

By: Alia Lewis

Empowerment Writer



who are u.pngThink about it. What is the natural, genuine, authentic you like? Who are you when no one is around, when it’s just you in your room thinking about your hopes and dreams? What things do you actually care about? What have you always gravitated toward or pretended to be and do when you were little?

Whatever personality trait or answer you gave is

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Embracing Your Authentic Self

From the time you wake up in the morning until you go to sleep, you are bombarded with so many different personalities, opinions, and lifestyles, that it can be hard to hold on to your own. The immense social pressure to fit in and be someone you’re not, sometimes can cause you to hide and ultimately forget who you really are. Listen peeps, don’t be ashamed to be yourself. Be proud to embrace who you really are. There’s no need to hide your personality and replace it with a fake persona.

People who can’t accept the real you don’t deserve to be a part of your life.

Think about this, which would you prefer, tons of fake friends you have to alter yourself for or a few genuine friends who accept you as you are?

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Letting Go of What Is Cool

I am absolutely convinced that the biggest hindrance of people embracing their authentic self is the fear of being rejected. We say things we don’t mean, buy things we hate to wear, and partake in activities that don’t align with who we really are, all in the name of being cool. I can’t count the number of the times I’ve said or done things that was totally out of line with my personality all because I wanted to impress people who appeared to be cool. The ironic thing about that is most of the time the same people I cared so much about and wanted to impress, honestly didn’t care about me or what I did. Half the time they didn’t even remember it.

But do you want to know who did remember?

The person you hurt! Whether you hurt yourself by not staying true to who you are, or someone else by cutting them down trying to impress others. You don’t have to “put on” and “flex” for people who don’t care about you. Be Yourself!

“No one can do a better job at being you than you!” - unknown

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The lesson: Embrace your authentic self! When in public, be the same person you are in private. Yes this is scary and yes it takes vulnerability and courage, but…

You will never reach your highest potential in life until you accept and embrace who you genuinely are as a person.

As Shameless Maya always says, “do you, be you, and stay true!”

Embrace your authentic self.

-Peace, Alia

PS. You may feel like you’re alone or you have to hide who you are in order to gain friends, but that’s not true. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m always available. Just message me here. I would love to hear from you!

 

 

Our Love and Their Opinions

By Alesha Elbert

Family/Relationship Writer

    “I’m entitled to my own opinion.” “Freedom of speech.” “I have my own mind.” “Who cares what you think?”

    Does that sound familiar? I’ve said these words probably as long as I’ve known about the Bill of Rights, and let me tell ya, going throughout grade school learning those rights were a struggle. But what if you were in a relationship and all your friends hated your partner? And when you called them on the nonsense and negativity, they said, “I’m entitled to my own opinion.” What would you do? ‘Cause technically this is true, but really, what would you do?

    I’ve written on numerous occasions how you must be careful about how much information you allow others to know concerning your relationship. The reason I say this is because you need a healthy support system surrounding you in any situation. Times do get rough and you may need a shoulder to cry on. But is it necessary to tell all of Facebook or Twitter your problems? Every time you have a bogus argument does the entire world need to know? I’ll answer it for you: HELL NO. Because then you give people the opportunity to form an opinion. They don’t have the right unless you give it to them.

    Giving people something to talk about will humiliate you in the end. The reason I’m preaching this is because most individuals in our generation have petty arguments with their partners. For example, women, including myself, get so angry when their partner’s don’t text them back fast enough. I can’t tell you how common this is! But if it is a reoccurring thing, you run back and tell whoever you can confide in, thus providing a negative feeling towards the person you’re dating. Trust me, people remember the negative before the positive. So everything you say will be brought back in future conversation.

Now, what do you do to change these habits?

    It hurts when those you care about don’t care for the person you love. Your support system has given up on your partner and maybe even at a breaking point with you because you continue to return to a bad relationship. But what if the relationship is better now? Remember how I just said people remember the negative before the positive? It’s because we as humans have a hard time forgiving. We want to have something to be angry about. We want to have something to use against someone in hard times. If you’re having this problem, have patience.

“Change, like healing, takes time.” This quote by Veronica Roth means a lot because this is a renewing process you’re going through. One, you’re getting your life together with someone you’ve had countless amounts of problems with. And you’re healing from the wounds that have been caused throughout. It is the same with your support system. They need time to understand this state of change. They need time to accept this new found love with that person. BUT if they love you, they will respect your decisions. And if you fall again, they will be right there to pick you up.

I really hope this helps you find peace in your relationships and gives you strength to be patient with those who are entitled to their own opinions. Have faith in what you believe and peace will follow.

                                                                          -Blessings,

                                                                                      Layy.  

   

“God Don’t Make No Junk.”

Michelle Norsworthy

Culture & Spirituality

“God don’t make no junk.”

These were the words spoken by Senator Jim Ferlo, of Pennyslvania, when he casually, and officially, came out to the public in his speech about a recent hate crime that took place in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. He said that those were the words his mother would’ve spoken to him were she still alive.

Whether you believe in a higher power – God, Goddess, or otherwise – it’s important to keep this in mind. “God Don’t Make No Junk.” I loved it when I heard it, not only because it proves that people have the ability to be accepting, but also because it’s so relatable.

How many times have you thought negatively about yourself? About someone else?

Let’s be honest, how many times have you realized there are some things you just aren’t open-minded about, no matter how hard you try?

It’s a common practice for us to try and force others to see both sides of a situation – to be accepting of another person’s lifestyle. For those who know me personally, they know that I play the “Devil’s Advocate” a lot. With any situation, I’m like, “Okay…yeah, but what about this,” and sometimes I can even get angry at them because they refuse to see the other person’s point of view.

What does that have to do with God and his inability to make “junk?” I’m glad you asked!

Everyone has developed into the person they are because of their life experiences and the environment they find themselves in. We were each born and lived our lives differently. Not wrong, just different.

It’s important to remember this when discussing controversial topics like sexuality, religion, race, and life in general. Each person is a product of their life, which means that no two people are the same. Even if we find someone we tend to agree on everything with, there will always be something to butt heads about. Don’t believe me? Strike up a conversation about the real issues, about the hard and tough issues. No? Talk about daily issues. Offer a scenario up involving two or more people interacting with one another – throw in a little drama for good measure – and let the conversation unfold. That seems silly, I know, but it illustrates a point: We All Think Differently.

And why do we think differently? Because of the lives we’ve lived. Different is not synonymous with wrong, nor does it mean those who are different than us are “junk.”

Although we think differently, and hold different beliefs and values, it doesn’t mean we must war against each other. It doesn’t mean we must draw a line in the sand and declare that we are arch-nemeses. What it does mean is that it’s okay to agree to disagree. If, like me, you can’t help but demonstrate both sides of an issue, leave it at that.

Skip the long, drawn-out speech about how the other person should do this and should do that in terms of accepting another person’s lifestyle. By offering up the facts, and how “the Other” might feel, we can at least give the other person food for thought. When we start foaming at the mouth at someone for not accepting another, it’s important to remember that all that wide-eyed frustration and hair-pulling is also intolerance.

In order to spark conversation rather than argument, we must remind ourselves that “different” is not the same as “wrong.” It’s those differences that make us who we are, our most authentic and uncensored selves. In other words, “God don’t make no junk.”

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Press Play.

Let the music play in the background.

Now, when you see the word happy, what do you think of? Where do you think of?

Hold that vision in your head. What do you see? Hear? Smell?

What do you feel? Think of the sensations and emotions you experience in this vision. Allow yourself to be enveloped in each one, let them wash over your body individually.

Immerse yourself fully in this vision, tuning out all other noise. Don’t worry about anything else that’s going on for a few minutes.

Breathe deeply and slowly, and with each exhale feel the tension flowing out of your body.

Keep those emotions and sensations in mind as you come back to the present moment. Open your eyes and inhale deeply.



Exhale.

Visualization is an important tool to have in our arsenals. Not only does it keep us focused on goals we want to accomplish, but it allows our bodies and minds to experience an alternate reality.

Another time, separate yet simultaneous to our own.

Whether your Happy Place is a memory, or just a place you’ve always dreamt of visiting, the ability of this image to evoke happiness and tranquility is key in our everyday lives. On a daily basis, we are bombarded with stressors: work, relationships, friends, and personal issues we find ourselves confronted with.

When stress takes over, we can become cranky and even antagonistic towards others. More often than not, we say things we don’t mean and find we regret them later.

Using visualization when we feel ourselves getting overwhelmed can help curb our angry outbursts, and improve other aspects of our lives that are affected by negative stress.

If you don’t have the time to set up some nice tunes and in-depth visualize, carrying a photo or drawing of a mandala can be a quicker way to achieve a state of tranquility.

Mandalas, from the Sanskrit “circle,” are symbols of the infinite nature of the universe, and our divine connection to that. It helps to remind us that, in the scheme of things, the circumstances that stress us are temporary; we will outlast the negative stress we find ourselves in. The mandala also represents connectedness, because of its circular shape, and serves as a reminder that we aren’t alone in our struggles. Like the circle, each of us is connected to a divine source and to each other, without separation.

I hope this helped someone, and if you have anything you’d like to share, you can let us know by leaving a message. If you’d like to know more about meditation, visualization, or other stress relief techniques, ask your questions here.

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-M.

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  · Following Your Passions

Following Your Passions

By: Alia Lewis

Empowerment Writer

Rockstar, painter, dancer, writer, speaker.

Imagine someone having a resume that included all of the following job titles. Would you think that person lived an amazing life or would you think they were confused about what they wanted to do in life?

This past week, I had the privilege of attending a success seminar led by Patrick Combs.

Like the list above, Patrick possessed so many career titles over the years. What struck me was that he didn’t seem bothered by that at all. In fact, he embraced his vast career experience and made it seem like all of the ventures he undertook made his life richer. I was shocked! All of my life through school, parents, and society, I’ve been told to stick to one thing. Choose one major, not too many hobbies, pick one career and do it for the rest of your life! Can anyone relate? I never knew you could follow so many career paths and not be considered a failure!

Patrick started in PR, then managed a rock band, wrote a book, performed in theatre, became a comedian, and is currently flourishing in his speaking career! He followed his likes and interests, which led to his passions.

Despite what everyone says, you are not limited to only one passion. You can do multiple things and follow them all. If one doesn’t work out, it’s fine. You’re not a failure because you didn’t achieve exactly what you wanted to. You not being interested in one thing will lead to a door opening in something else!

In his speech, Patrick talked about a boy he had met at another speaking engagement. This boy was from a town in the middle of nowhere and had dreams of working in Hollywood. He did his research and got an internship for Miramax Film Company in LA! He told Patrick that he loved the trip and that it changed his life. However, through his internship he realized that the movie industry just wasn’t for him. Patrick then asked him how was the trip life changing if he didn’t even like the film industry anymore. The guy said even though he didn’t fulfill his original intention of working in Hollywood, by following his passion, other opportunities became available for him. Today, because of him taking his initial step of following his passions, he is a corporate manager at Disney World, a place he fell in love with immediately after he left Hollywood!

You can either look at something as a failure, or look at is as a learning experience that opened doors and brought you to the place you are today. Follow your interesst and pursue your passions no matter how vast or unrelated they may be. In the end it’s your experiences, not your money, that grant you a rich and abundant life.

Have an amazing weekend.

-Peace, Alia


PS. If you enjoyed this post or if you have any questions or comments, message me here. I would love to hear from you!




Chocolate & Vanilla Swirl: Interracial Love

By Alesha Elbert

Family/Relationship Writer

           Diversity! Equality! Yes, these are issues in the media that people are finally taking a stand for. Here at Authentically Human, we stress the fact that we are all connected and have similar views and customs amongst one another. And through these changes comes love for one another. Today I’m talking about interracial love and how it is growing within society.

           I have always been accepting of different ethnicities and races because that’s the way I was raised. Love is a fluid emotion so I strongly believe in interracial love. When you love someone, it shouldn’t matter what they look like on the outside, but the personality and who they are on the inside. Interracial love brings in so many different cultural ideas and diversity And if you decide to marry your lover, remember, those babies will be GORGEOUSSSS! lol.

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           In society, we are power hungry. We all want to be the head and not the tail. But what will be accomplished from fighting against each other? Nothing.

As Barack Obama said, “The forces that divide us are not as strong as those that unite us.”

           This is so important when it comes to accepting interracial love. All the negativity that may surround the topic can drive your love away. However you have to block it out because the negative will never outdo the positive. If you’re happy with who you’re with, love them as hard as you can because no one can take the right to love away from you.

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           Love has no color. So if you want to be with someone of a different heritage or ethnicity do it! Interracial dating shouldn’t even be a classification! Dating is dating, there shouldn’t be a brand upon it. Never be ashamed of what you feel and find your love.

                                                                                   -Layy

MICHELLE NORSWORTHY

Culture & Spiritual

In just two short days, Autumn will be upon us and we can finally go, “Ahhhh,” as we sip our yummy, peppermint hot chocolates and munch on some even more delicious seasonal treats! But as the first day of autumn approaches, it’s the perfect time to reflect on what the season symbolizes: the harvest.

In life, the harvest means reaping the benefits (or consequences!) of all our work. Midterms are right around the corner, and so is that paycheck. Here’s the big, final test before you start seeing your success manifest.

In love, it can symbolize the transition into a more comfortable, stable, loving period with our partners – or the end of a relationship.

Many cultures celebrate holidays to commemorate the harvest. One of the most well-known holidays is….

HALLOWEEN

Most know it as a day to go wild, shovel down as many bite-sized sweets as possible, and cliché (and risqué) costuming, Halloween’s true story is a bit more…earthy.

Known to many earth-based religions as Samhain (sow-in) or Hallow’s Eve, it marks the transition into the “dark” half of the year. Life begins to fade away, or go into hibernation, and we bring in the last of our harvests.

Common symbols of this holiday are the pumpkin, rosemary, and acorns. If you’re the type of person who enjoys cooking, try out this yummy recipe! Fair warning though, autumn is really conducive to calorie-counting. So, try this on a cheat-day if you’re a diet-er (:

Sweet Potato and Apple Bake

1 large (1/4 lb) sweet potato
3 medium Golden Delicious apples
1 teaspoons lemon juice
1 large leek
1/4 cup (1/2 stick) butter or margarine, softened
1/4 teaspoon Salt
1/8 teaspoon ground pepper
1/4 cups apple juice
2 tablespoons unseasoned bread crumbs
1 tablespoon brown sugar

Heat oven to 350 degrees. Peel and thinly slice sweet potato. Peel, core, and cut apples into 1/4-inch-thick slices. Place apples in bowl and add water to cover; add lemon Juice. Trim off top of leek 1 inch above white; discard top and root end. Cut leek lengthwise in half and clean well under running cold water. Thinly slice leek crosswise. Drain apples well; pat dry. Grease 1 1/2-quart casserole with 1 table-spoon butter. Place one third of apples in bottom of casserole; top with one third of leek slices and one third of sweet potato. Season with salt and pepper. Repeat to make 2 more layers. Dot top of casserole with 2 tablespoons butter; pour apple juice over all. Cover 
tightly with lid or aluminum foil and bake 45 minutes.

Meanwhile, to make topping, in small sauce-pan, melt remaining 1 ta- blespoon butter; stir in bread crumbs and brown sugar until well combined. Uncover casserole and sprinkle with topping. Bake uncovered 10 to 15 minutes longer or until potato slices are tender. Serve immediately. Yield: 6 Servings.”

- Recipe Source.

Handcuffs & High Winds: Cuffing Season!

By Alesha Elbert

Family/Relationship Writer

    I felt a breeze cascade across my face, as the oranges and browns of fall began to captivate my eye, I knew this could only mean one thing… CUFFING SEASON HAS BEGUN! That’s right, cuffing season is in and singleness is out. While everyone is out buying their sweaters, they’re also stacking up on digits ‘cause it is about that time for the chill to bring us all together for the warmth of love.

    So some of you are probably asking, WHAT THE HECK IS CUFFING SEASON? Here is a quick overview:

    As you can tell outside, the temperature is beginning to drop. Which means that the season of fall is starting to kick in. But during the summer time, people are partying, living it like it’s their last, not committing to anything, or anyone for that matter. Now since it’s hot, of course no one wants to have another body glued to them providing even more sweat than the sun is already doing, so individuals remain single. But as soon as that first breeze hits, it’s time to grab a cuddle buddy. Someone they can go home to on those cold and lonely nights. So why not “cuff” and commit to a person to ease the chill of the harsh winter coming ahead? Hence, the races are off! Cuffing season is now in session.

                     Why is this so important?

    It’s really not lol. But some people really take this serious. One of my favorite movies “Two Can Play That Game” explains that women during the summer wear skimpy clothes and such which attracts a man to want to hit and quit during the hot seasons, but during those cool seasons they’re all good. Just wanting someone to hold during those cold nights.

So, why don’t people cuff around Valentine’s Day?

    Some people do, but its common around this time to hook up, so that when Valentine’s Day comes, you have a boo to celebrate the holiday with. You don’t want to be that loner hating everyone when that day rolls around. So hook up now while their some singles still available!

  

Cuffing season is a big trend in our generation, but remember, you can find love at any time of the year. Everyone has someone, waiting to be found. Just give it time and have fun during these upcoming holidays. You never know, you might get cuffed soon! Wait on it loves.

-Layy