Good Cockblocking: Bringing Your Bestie on a Date
By Alesha Elbert
Here’s a question for you all. So you just met this person, you’re really into them and have only known them for about a week. The weekend comes, and of course, you’re dying to see this person again. The person asks you, “Hey, would you like to come over and chill?” You respond by saying, “Sure.” Now you have options. A, you take your best friend with you, or B you go alone. What do you do?
With the way the world works, there is a new sense of paranoia in everyone’s hearts. We have no idea what anyone’s intentions are anymore. You can’t judge by the way they talk, dress, or anything. People have hidden agendas. So with this in mind, your best bet is to take a friend with you. Why? Because you DON’T KNOW THEM. Some of you may be thinking, “I’m grown, I can protect myself!” Or, “I just met the person, they’re not going to hurt me.” Honestly, I thought the same way, UNTIL I asked around. Here were a few of my questions:
Q. Why would you bring a friend with you when all they want to do is chill?
A. Yes, they may want to just chill, but what if one thing leads to another and you’re not ready for that? You have a friend there to prevent it. Kind of like, “good cockblocking”.
Q. What if the person becomes interested in your friend?
A. First, be careful about which friend you bring along with you. If it’s a single friend that you really wouldn’t trust with your life, that’s not a good choice. But if it is a friend that you would die for and is also taken, definitely bring them. Their intentions will be good.
And if he/she becomes interested in your friend, then they weren’t set on taking things serious with you in the first place. It’s better to find out now than along the way.
Q. What if your friend begins to feel like a third wheel? Appearing to even be uncomfortable?
A. You could always ask the individual if they have another friend to keep your friend company, or do group chilling things. Watch Netflix; just find something that you all have in common to do. You’ll be learning about what he/she like, plus including your friend in the fun.
In my opinion, I feel it is necessary to bring a friend with you if you’re chilling with someone for the first time. If it was a date or outing with several people around, then it may not be necessary to bring a friend along. Also, remember to always drive yourself because if things go wrong, you have a way out. If you don’t feel comfortable going to their place, ask can they come over to yours. This way you have control over your situation. Remember, you want to be comfortable because your life is what matters. If you love yourself, you do things that will protect yourself.
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